There is value in our words and actions but perhaps we need to start with our thought life.  The Word of God instructs us to think on things good and true.

Philippians 4:8-9
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

Tender Thoughts

Tender thoughts flow through the heart as a soothing embrace
And the words formed are sweet to taste,
Gentle, flowering, sacrifices offered up in prayer.
Love shows its face to the God that cares.
The sweet perfume of sacrifice fills the atmosphere,
In the holy anointing that proves your God is near.
Deep sighs of peace in God’s comfort rests,
With satisfied heart convinced to watch for God’s best.
Hope filled eyes search for any sign,
To know and to follow as God designs.
The face lifts for heaven’s kiss,
As the coal is placed on unholy lips.
Praise and worship and wisdom will depart,
From the one that has a yielded and a still heart.
Tender thoughts, with words kind and full of respect,
Can a great harvest expect.
Practice makes perfect – with God’s help within,
Vessels are made as pure as God already sees them.
Follow the example of Jesus for He loved man so much,
He thought tender thoughts toward all as on the cross He touched.

Jeremiah 31:3
The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.